Loneliness
Posted on 16 Jun 2010 under Journal/Life Updates, XLRI
It’s my third day back in XLRI. The weather gadget in my sidebar says that it’s 38°C outside, but I think it’s very likely that it’s hotter than that. Here inside my room, though, it’s definitely quite a few degrees cooler.
I’m sitting in a straight-back, albeit moderately comfortable chair, listening to music pour out of the speakers, while the sub-woofer on the floor gently makes my wooden work-area vibrate gently with the rising bass. The fan is running at optimum speed, blowing a gentle wind on my neck and shoulders.
It’s as close to bliss as you can get in summer in XLRI (unless you find bliss in the air-conditioned classrooms, with the lecture going on).
What strikes me is how comfortable I am, alone in my room. How nice this all is, no rules or restrictions. This is my space, my home. Yes, it’s small (it’s only one room, after all), but it’s still all mine.
And maybe that has a deeper meaning. The loneliness of my room is all pervasive. It’s as much a part of our lives as our own skin is. We were alone in birth (not counting twins, I suppose) and will be alone in death and whatever lies beyond as well, probably. The only thing debatable is the in-between.
Here’s my opinion. No matter what you think, no matter what you say, you are and will always be, to a certain extent, alone. No one can read your mind, think like you do or form your opinions for you. No one can help you if you don’t want to be helped, or depress you if you don’t want to be saddened. I understand that it’s much easier to simplistically and generally make a global statement like I just did, but like I said, it’s merely an opinion. Maybe it’s something to ponder over, a fountainhead to set your own thoughts in motion.
No one can help you if you don’t want to be helped, or depress you if you don’t want to be saddened.
How do you relate this to loneliness? Does being alone need to be related to empathy and/or sadness? Cant I be alone and still remain happy with mere facts of life like you’ve mentioned here?
I think everybody has been sent out here for a long walk which we call life. And there can be parallel pathways. They may not converge, but can always be visible and slowly transitioned onto.So people technically are not lonely by birth. It is always a choice. What is debatable, is the walk together with others, infact.
This is merely an “opinion”. Again.
Those lines…they simply mean that you have to battle your demons yourself, no one else can. They can help, but at the end of the day, you’re the one who has the swing the axe.
You’re right about the paths of life that are not only parallel, but in quite a few cases are intertwining. However, what I meant was more that inside our minds, we are always alone, even in the company of others.
“roadies mein har koi akela hai” – raghu ram.
I think it’s an insult you compared my thoughtful blog post to Roadies.
I loved both of you opinions gurdit and A….
:)
just one thing to say, every one has his/her own opinion and everyone have their own defination of right and wrong….
there is nothing else what we could do but respect everyone’s opinion and live with ur own..
You’re right.
“No matter what you think, no matter what you say, you are and will always be, to a certain extent, alone”
There is nothing wrong with being alone. If! you enjoy your own company.